Move Back to Wholeness
Have you ever felt like no matter how much you do or how much you heal, something deep inside still whispers, “You’re not enough”?
That voice—quiet but persistent—often traces back to what I call a core emotional wound.
These are deep energetic imprints from early life, often formed in our relationships with our mother or father. They shape how we see ourselves, how we show up in relationships, and even how much love we allow ourselves to receive.
Most of the time, they’re invisible until we’re ready to see them.
On Episode 17 of Separation to Oneness, I take you through the steps to heal core emotional wounds, and get you started with a full 20 minute guided meditation.
💔 Amelia’s Story: When Love Feels Conditional
Enter Amelia, a highly intelligent empath who grew up with a narcissistic mother. Her mother favoured her brothers, criticized Amelia relentlessly, and withheld emotional warmth. Amelia realized early that no matter what she did, she couldn’t make her mother happy.
Instead of turning outward to please everyone else, Amelia turned the wound inward. She became a perfectionist—driven to succeed, always doing more, always striving.
Perfectionism became the armour she wore to protect her from feeling unworthy.
Amelia’s story is not rare. Many of us carry emotional wounds like this, often masked by the very behaviors we think are strengths.
Four Steps To Heal Core Wounds
Step 1. Understand Where They Come From and How They ‘Run’
Core wounds often stem from feeling rejected or abandoned, shamed or judged or unsupported, unseen, or emotionally unsafe. These wounds get internalized and show up in adulthood as:
- Overworking or people-pleasing
- Difficulty setting boundaries
- Trouble receiving love or feeling “enough”
They’re not flaws. They’re survival strategies we learned as children.
But the good news is: what was created in pain can be healed in love.
Step 2. Identify What Wound is Driving You
Here are a few questions you can reflect on right to help uncover the wound running in your life.
- What did I most crave from my mother or father—but didn’t fully receive?
- What pattern do I keep repeating in my life (e.g., self-doubt, overgiving)?
- Where do I still abandon my own needs to feel safe or accepted?
Often, the core wound is tied to a driving need—to be loved, to feel safe, to be seen. Once we see it, we can start to heal it.
Step 3. Start the Healing
In Episode 17 of Separation to Oneness, I go deeper into:
- The differences between the mother wound and father wound
- How these show up in real life (through the stories of Amelia, Tara and Allison)
- Why healing is circular and often generational
- A 20-minute guided healing meditation to connect and heal your inner wounded self
🎧 Ready to reclaim your worth and step into your light?
Listen to the full episode here:
✨ Reflection Prompts to Deepen Your Journey
After listening, take a few moments to journal:
- What survival pattern did I create to cope with not feeling enough?
- What does my younger self still need to hear from me?
- What does my Higher Self want me to know about healing this?
Step 4. Be Compassionate and Know that You are NOT Broken
At the heart of Radical Self-Love is this truth:
The wound is not who you are–it’s the doorway back to your truth.
You are not broken. The parts of you that were hurt are waiting to be seen, loved, and brought back home.
If you’re ready to go deeper, I invite you to keep the healing going.
- Book a 1:1 healing or regression session with me at www.elementalbalance.com
- Read Radical Self-Love: Create a Vibrant Life Beyond Fear and Limitation, available on Amazon in 3 formats
- Subscribe to my podcast and share it with someone who could use a little help, love and support.
We don’t have to carry these wounds forever. Let’s walk the path back to wholeness—together.
Love,
Niki